CONNECTING THROUGH THE GIFT OF TIME

Blaine Havens travels … a lot. At age 21, he embraces the opportunity to visit communities around Pennsylvania through his work as a Traveling Surgical Technologist at UPMC. And each time Blaine receives a new assignment, his first call is to the YMCA. 

“When you travel like this, isolation is very real,” Blaine says. “You’re always going to be the new guy. I can just sit in my hotel room, or I can go to the Y and be around people, have conversations.” 

Before Christmas 2023, Blaine – whose home is Youngstown, Ohio, where he is finishing his Bachelor’s degree from Youngstown State – received a 6-week assignment at UPMC Hamot. He immediately contacted the YMCA of Greater Erie to learn more about volunteering. 

Blaine joined our Eastside location at the Parents’ Afternoon Out event and then again at the Christmas Luncheon, where he helped set tables in the gym. But for Blaine, it was about more than just forks and spoons. 

“When I go somewhere for 6 weeks, I want to be knee-deep in that community,” he says. “This work has given me a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to travel around the state and meet people, see their values and figure out how I can help.” 

As a young person himself, Blaine acknowledges that many people his age seem anxious about the world. “It helps to commit to something and stick with it,” he says. “For me, it’s the Y.” 

Like most people, Blaine has a Y story. He learned to swim at the Davis Family YMCA in Youngstown, which was closest to his then-home in West Virginia. He later joined the Y’s swim team and went on to swim in high school, where his coach was also his Y coach and practices were held at the Y pool. He then swam in college.  

Now, as his life has become more transient, Blaine has found the Y to be a home away from home. 

“The Y is consistently the best place to get plugged into a community and hear what’s happening,” Blaine says. “YMCA’s are a really unique intersection of all generations where you can get involved in new hobbies, learn new things, and connect with people.” 

Blaine sits reflective for a moment. 

“How do you define personal wellness,” he says, rhetorically. “Do you want to be in better shape, is it the number on the scale, do you want to make an impact?” 

For Blaine, the ability to volunteer and make connections is central to his purpose.  

“You work hard all week and get a paycheck – great! Now if you give yourself to someone fully and that person thanks you because you made an impact on them – wouldn’t you rather have that feeling? Of course, everyone needs a paycheck, but that feeling of someone showing gratitude is a wonderful feeling.” 

Blaine goes on. “When I got here, I asked the lady at the front desk where I should go to eat. She gave me a list of 12 restaurants, and we talked for a while. That kindness – you won’t get that everywhere.” 

“My argument to young people is that for $10 you can get a gym membership,” he says. “But for a little more you can be a positive influence in the community. You can meet people and make connections.” 

“My personal definition of well-being extends far beyond my BMI. It’s all about connections,” Blaine says. “What can someone like me do for someone like you?” 

‘I’ve Met No Strangers Here’

Roslyn Davidson-Riley was an avid walker but her doctor cautioned her against walking on cement. So, with her Silver Sneakers Membership, Roslyn started walking the track at the Eastside Family YMCA. She had a friend who was a member there, but she quickly made new friends who invited her to join more activities.

“A couple ladies started talking to me on the track,” Roslyn says. “We started sharing a bit about our lives and became friends.” That’s when they invited Roslyn to come to class in the small pool. “I was so happy.”

Roslyn said she’s met a lot of nice people and really loves her classes.

“It’s a wonderful place to come for your workout,” she says of the YMCA, “but relationships can really be built because of the nice people you meet here.”

Roslyn recalls how her classmates sang “Happy Birthday” to her in both of her morning pool classes. They even brought in a plastic cake.

With a big smile, Roslyn sums up her experience: “I’ve met no strangers here.”

A Warm Welcome

In many places, when you ask a question you get an answer. At the Y, when you ask a question, you get a new friend.

Mindy joined the Y in December 2023, primarily for swim lessons for her young son. She trains hard for endurance races – like the Boulder Beast, which included climbing a mountain – then steps back for a time. But on this day, she was curious about the schedule posted on the door. When Visnja approached with her mat, Mindy asked if there was a class.

Visnja explained the class and encouraged Mindy to join her. Soon, they were chatting and laughing, sharing a bit about their backgrounds. Visnja has been a member for five years and loves SoulFusion.

“It can be hard to come into a class for the first time,” Visnja shared. “I want others to enjoy the Y like I do.” She helped Mindy get set up with her own mat and weights.

After class, Visnja checked in with Mindy again. “That’s what I needed,” she said, smiling. “I’ll definitely be back.”

Perspective: Learning to Swim Boosts Confidence

Darlene Stalmach always wanted to know how to swim. She took lessons more than 25 years ago but never finished. A recent knee replacement motivated her to enroll in adult swim lessons.

“I was looking for a total-body and low-impact exercise,” said Darlene. “Swimming has given me the confidence and motivation to go to the Y, try different activities and meet new people.”

Darlene is afraid of heights. Diving into the water from the diving block required Darlene to overcome an additional fear. “I attempted it twice and backed down. My instructor Brandi encouraged me. Eventually, I did overcome my fear and I dove it! It was a definite milestone for me.”

“I have a 13-year-old granddaughter and she doesn’t know how to swim either. I hope I can be her role model and maybe someday teach her,” said Darlene.

Perspective: Mom & Daughter Bond Through Swim Lessons

Ann Trask always wanted to know how to swim. She took swim lessons as a child, but never progressed into a competent swimmer.

“I also wanted to learn so as my daughter’s swimming skills progressed, I could keep up with skill level and ensure that she is safe in the water,” said Ann.

The two bond over conversations about swimming, watching swimming videos and swapping stories about what each learned in the week’s class. “I also think learning as an adult shows her that you are never too old to learn something new and, sometimes, it takes time and practice to progress,” said Ann.

Learning to swim has given Ann confidence. It’s inspired her to try other new experiences too.

“I would recommend learning to swim at any age. My instructor Brandi has been fabulous and is patient with adult learners.”

Breast Cancer Roundtable Discussion

A round table discussion was recently held at our Eastside location by members who are breast cancer survivors. Members Carol Dolak, Justina Bailey, Kate Chalupczynski, and Peggy Lucas discussed their journeys after their diagnoses.

Kate shared specifically how the Y helped her through this time: Tears were in her eyes as she described the compassion and encouragement from staff member Kelly Gibson when learning of her diagnosis and upcoming surgery, the get-well card signed by staff and members in her classes at the Y, and the warm welcome she received when returning to the Y helped to boost her spirits.   

Being in shape from her YMCA classes helped with her recovery: She received comments from medical professionals at her appointments complimenting her low heart rate and increased shoulder mobility/range of motion. She could raise her arm the day after surgery with no discomfort, and was back to yoga class 8 days after surgery, both of which she also credits her good physical shape from her Y workouts.